This past weekend came and went in a blur—swift, full, and satisfyingly productive. I don’t think I had ten consecutive minutes of idleness, except during sleep, and truthfully, I relish weekends like that. There is a certain peace that comes from purposeful accomplishments.
In one of my conversations over those busy days, a curious topic surfaced: the increasing need to remind people—again and again—about the simplest responsibilities. A bill due. An appointment scheduled, a task promised, or a basic, everyday obligation. I remarked that in these present times, many people seem capable of focusing on only one thing, whether it be children, grandchildren, entertainment, work, or some other singular preoccupation. Everything else, such as duties, commitments, even common courtesy, all fall by the wayside.
It has become difficult to hold a meaningful conversation with someone whose world has narrowed to a single point. The most engaging and educated people, in my experience, are those who can move gracefully across topics, who can offer insight, curiosity, and a well-formed exchange of ideas. But to enter into conversation only to discover that the other person can speak of nothing beyond their kids or chasing the almighty dollar, a meaningless sports statistic, or their favorite sports team quickly becomes futile. Unfortunately, the dialogue collapses before it begins.
Alongside this narrowing of attention, there is also a rising tide of blatant selfishness, that inward curl of the human heart that makes genuine engagement even more difficult. Many people have become so absorbed in their own preferences, comforts, and routines that they no longer consider how their choices affect others. Commitments are treated casually, responsibilities are postponed indefinitely, and the smallest inconvenience is met with irritation rather than maturity. It is as though people have allowed themselves to be trained to prioritize their own ease above all else. This self‑preoccupation doesn’t merely strain relationships; it impoverishes the soul. A life turned inward eventually collapses under its own smallness and vapid reality.
Something has shifted in recent years, revealing a kind of dullness and a thinning of interior life. Perhaps it stems from weakened social skills, the isolating effects of social media, the aftershocks of the scamdemic years, a decline in religious grounding, or some combination of these. Whatever the cause, the result is the same: many lives have grown small, distracted, and strangely brittle. And in that narrowing, something essential and human seems to have been lost.
If anything, these observations should stir in us not frustration but a quiet resolve. We cannot control the narrowing of other people’s worlds, but we can refuse to let our own shrink. We can choose to cultivate curiosity, to read widely, to think deeply, to converse generously. We can reclaim the art of attention—toward religion, toward others, toward the responsibilities entrusted to us. Renewal begins not with grand gestures but with the simple decision to live awake in a culture that drifts toward distraction. If we desire a richer, more meaningful world and personal life, we must first become richer, more meaningful people who are anchored, attentive, and alive to the fullness of life that really is intended for us.
